Keeping It "Mutual".

Yeah, "mutual", in quotation marks...
The reason why I put the word in quotation marks is because a lot of people say they will keep it mutual, but they never really do so.  This usually happens when you’re a couple and have had a relationship together, and you both have the same exact friends. However, down the line…you guys might break up. Now, what happens? Are all those friends still going to legitimately be cool with you?


 



“Damn. She’s going? Ugh. I don’t think I’m going to go.”
“If he goes, I’m not going. Don’t count me in on that one…”

Awkwardness:  It’s not just uncomfortable for you both; it definitely is for your friends, too.  Trying to proceed and keep it mutual between friends can be inflexible, and makes people put in the middle, and they also feel like their choosing sides. Especially if you have one person that always wants people to take their side, and puts all their business out there. But, if you genuinely keep it mutual between a couple that are going through a break up, then you’re being a true friend to that other person.

My EXperience: From my own experience, I’ve recently dealt with a break up and it was (and still can be) a little overwhelming. Having mutual friends is the hardest part of the whole break up, mainly if all the friends were mostly the ex significant others. When I put “mutual” is because in my case I realized that most of those “friends” weren’t really mine, in reality they were his. It also made it difficult, because I slowly but surely realized how other people would act towards me…

If you are a true friend…you wouldn’t pick sides. You would keep it mutual with both people, because… 1. It’s not your problem. Stay out of peoples business (and it shouldn’t matter who you were friends with first.). 2. be mature about the situation. Taking sides is like being in high school. /

Idea for This Blog Post:  My own life experience gave me a little inspiration for me to come up with this blog post. And the other reason was the show F.R.I.E.N.D.S, because even when Ross and Rachel broke up, the rest of group of friends tried their best to keep it mutual. Even though, it’s not real, and they’re not actual people…It is a perfect example on how it should be in real life.


"I always try to keep it mutual. Don't ever try to make me chose sides. We ain't in Elementary school, fool." - Me (yooitzkc)